“My past history is a decisive determinant in my current behavior, and something bad that happened to me once, must continue to affect me indefinitely” (Irrational thinking).
“Accept and learn from your mistakes.”
There was once a man who forded a river. Suddenly, a gold coin that was in his hands, fell into the water.
The man tried to retrieve it, but the current had taken it away. He cried with great bitterness because he considered that coin his greatest treasure.
A merchant, upon learning of the tragedy, offered him the possibility of working and winning two coins. But the man was so afflicted that he had no head to value and less to seize the opportunity that was offered to him, not only to recover, but to increase his fortune
There were other witnesses who passed by the place and also offered him different options to recover his treasure, but the man did not listen to the offers he was getting, because he could not stop crying, nor cursing everyone for not showing him -according to him- the empathy he expected in those difficult moments in life.
Avoid, dear reader, the irrational belief that your past history is determinant of your current behavior, and that something that ever happened to you, should continue to affect you indefinitely.
Nobody can change the past, but if you keep in mind that “today will be tomorrow’s past”, you could change the past to the same extent that you can bet that “today” will be better than “yesterday”.
Life is not fair or unfair to anyone, the difference is in the opportunities you seize, and the chances you take to feel good about yourself. It depends on you, nobody else.
by Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, clinical psychologist, UVHM.
Specialist in intervention and education for adults,
MATIA Gerontological Institute.
Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, is a 60-year-old Yucatecan graduated from the School of Philosophy and Theology at the San Ildefonso Archdiocesan Seminary in Yucatán. Clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from the Hispanic University of Mexico, specializing in cognitive impairment, psychostimulation and psychological intervention in older adults, by the MATIA Gerontology Institute of San Sebastian, Spain. He has 32 years of experience working directly with seniors and families.
Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, psicólogo clínico, UVHM.
Manejo de Emociones y Envejecimiento.
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