Your “irrational” beliefs to which -and without thinking- you usually give your complete approval, provoke discomfort and emotional suffering.
It is “irrational” and exhausting, for example, to think that to consider yourself valuable or successful, you have to be superior to others, so you’re constantly comparing yourself with someone else.
Comparing yourself “with another”, ends up causing envy, jealousy or a strange feeling of injustice and impotence that instead of pushing you forward, will make you feel inferior to the so-called “model” with whom you compare yourself, and sooner or later, it will become your “rival”.
I suggest you focus more on what you do than on the result. That is the key to enjoy everything you do every day and feel more proud and better about yourself.
Make a frequent analysis, to determine if you’re making an effort to achieve your goals or to feel superior to somebody else.
Propose from time to time to do what you fear to fail, this is an excellent option to “surpass yourself” and if you fail, accept the fact that human beings are not perfect, (that includes you). Do not be horrified by it.
Be more tolerant with yourself, I assure you, that it will bring you better results than demanding too much. You will gradually get used to thinking more “rationally” and objectively about yourself and others. It is worthwhile to analyze your thoughts. See you next Thursday.
by Antonio Alonzo Ruiz
Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, is a 60-year-old Yucatecan graduated from the School of Philosophy and Theology at the San Ildefonso Archdiocesan Seminary in Yucatán. Clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from the Hispanic University of Mexico, specializing in cognitive impairment, psychostimulation and psychological intervention in older adults, by the MATIA Gerontology Institute of San Sebastian, Spain. He has 32 years of experience working directly with seniors and families.
Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, psicólogo clínico, UVHM.
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Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, clinical psychologist, UVHM.
Specialist in intervention and education for adults,
MATIA Gerontological Institute.