Your “irrational” beliefs are those negative ideas that, without any questioning or previous analysis, apply with all rigor on yourself and others, and often cause discomfort or emotional suffering in you and anybody else involved.
It is “irrational”, for example, to be convinced that “to every error corresponds a punishment and, consequently, a fault.” This “belief” is usually false and not beneficial in most cases.
It is proven that the binomial “error-punishment” – by itself – increases the probability of committing other errors and propitiates the dreadful – and very difficult to overcome – “guilt complex.”
If this is your case, I strongly suggest you change the “To make mistakes, makes me a bad person” irrational belief, for a rational one, for example, “mistakes are an essential part of my personal improvement.”
Accepting and learning from your mistakes will open up three wonderful possibilities:
1st. You will feel more human, more equal to others. In other words, you will feel better about yourself and those around you.
2nd. Your ability to “apologize” for your limitations will grow.
3rd. Those affected by your mistakes will feel rewarded for the apologies offered and with your change of attitude towards them and, quite possibly, admire your degree of maturity.
The really important thing is that you accept and learn from your mistakes and that for the next time, do everything you can to avoid committing mistakes, and thus achieve a better performance in all areas of your life.
by Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, clinical psychologist, UVHM.
Specialist in intervention and education for adults,
MATIA Gerontological Institute.
Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, is a 60-year-old Yucatecan graduated from the School of Philosophy and Theology at the San Ildefonso Archdiocesan Seminary in Yucatán. Clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from the Hispanic University of Mexico, specializing in cognitive impairment, psychostimulation and psychological intervention in older adults, by the MATIA Gerontology Institute of San Sebastian, Spain. He has 32 years of experience working directly with seniors and families.
Antonio Alonzo Ruiz, psicólogo clínico, UVHM.
Manejo de Emociones y Envejecimiento.
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